What Is a Coach?
A coach is an individual with experience ("been there, done that") who assists another in achieving their desired life objectives. The coaching relationship is a powerful collaboration between coach and a young adult to promote personal and professional growth. Like an athletic or voice coach, a mentoring coach challenges you to live up to your potential and achieve your objectives. No serious athlete or singer would pursue success without a coach. A coach will assist you to be empowered through personal accountability.
The coaching relationship is a collaborative effort that focuses on the goals you would like to make and growth you wish to achieve. Coaching is not therapy, which may delve into your past, the coaching relationship accepts you as you are today, and concentrates on your personal goals for the future.
Why Have a Coach?The coaching relationship creates momentum through accountability and synergy. It is a tool that can be applied to almost any situation or goal. Examples of goals that can be achieved through coaching include:
- • Improving order, balance, and fulfillment in your life.
- • Achieving less stress, less financial pressure.
- • Addressing specific tasks, such as starting a new business, creating a daily workout or meditation routine, losing weight, reducing debt, etc.
- • Earning more money and being more effective at work.
- • Negotiating life transitions such as separation and divorce, job loss, and retirement.
What Is the Coaching Relationship Like?
The coaching relationship provides you with personalized focus, structure, advice, and support. It increases motivation through encouragement/empowerment and by dealing with procrastination and self-defeating behavior. It provides clarity by working with your priorities, values, and goals. The relationship provides non-judgmental support through articulating your dreams and aspirations, highlighting your accomplishments and objectively evaluating your mistakes. It provides accountability through face-to-face sessions or telephone conference sessions, coupled with specific assignments and action plans.
Coaching Over the Life Cycle
Life is a process. There are many transitions over the course of the life cycle. Managing these transitions successfully involves knowledge, resources, and application of knowledge. Coaching helps the person make these transitions smoothly and deliberately. Change is normal and natural and part of the growth process. Coaches understand this and are committed—they are not just a flash in the pan, nor do they lose interest as soon as a specific goal is achieved.
Areas of Life Transitions/Adjustment
- • Marriage
- • Loss of job / job change / retirement / job-related stress
- • Catastrophic Illness
- • Death
- • Business failing
- • Spiritual crisis
- • Value clarification
Six Principles of Coaching
- 1. The young adult sets the agenda.
- 2. The young adult and the coach are equals; it is not a doctor/patient relationship.
- 3. The young adult is resourceful. He/she has not come to be "fixed" but has the ability to resolve his or her own issues with clear, specific guidance.
- 4. The coach's role is to assist the young adult in discovering his or her own resources and skills. It is not to simply give advice.
- 5. Coaching addresses the whole person—spiritual, intellectual, and emotional.
- 6. Coaching is about positive, constructive goals. Coaching is not psychotherapy and is not intended to be mental health counseling. It may be therapeutic but is not intended as therapy.
Transitions are a normal part of life and there are certain skills and resources that are available to help navigate these transitions. The coaching model allows people to assess their lives and then provides tools and resources to achieve life's fullest rewards. Life adjustment coaching is not therapy; thus there is no mental illness diagnosis. It is a growth model that sees transitions as normal and potentially energizing parts of the overall life experience.
- 1. Look at all possibilities
- 2. Identify and predict
- 3. Make a choice / decide
- 4. Act
- 5. Evaluate actions
- 6. Accept accountability for actions
- 7. Working vs. not working
- 8. Keep the good; discard the bad